Healthy relationships are made of healthy individuals. 

Matthew 19:4-6 NIV “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” 

Ahab and Jezebel 1 Kings 16:29-33 NLT 

David was king who was a man after God’s own heart, Ahab was the king who broke God’s heart. 

1 Kings 21:25-26a 25 (There was never anyone like Ahab, who sold himself to do evil in the eyes of the Lord, urged on by Jezebel, his wife. 26 He behaved in the vilest manner by going after idols

Hebrews 10:24-25 24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching. 

Warning 1) A passive partner leads to a powerless relationship.

Eph 5 22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Kings 18:21  Elijah went before the people and said, “How long will you waver between two opinions? If the Lord is God, follow him; but if Baal is God, follow him.”But the people said nothing.

How to be proactive so you are not passive.

Lead yourself well- How’s your relationship with yourself? 

Have you forgiven yourself? (if the blood of Jesus has cleansed you, why are you still beating yourself up over it?) 

How do you talk to yourself? (if you wouldn’t talk to your kids like that why do you talk to yourself like that?

Are you honest with yourself?

Take responsibility, don’t shift the blame

Lead in Love Not in Fear.

Be the Spiritual Leader of Your Home

Humble yourselves before the Lord and He will lift you up in honor. James 4:10 NLT

Warning 2: A controlling partner will crush your purpose

A Jezebel spirit is a manipulator. It attaches itself to someone in authority, power, or strength and then uses that thing as a vehicle or puppet to its own deceitful will.

Naboth and his vineyard. 

 If you always get what you want you’ll end up where you don’t want to be.

Don’t Go on Guilt Trips

Respect and Honor the other person’s voice

Submit your Feelings to God